In a conversation the other night I recanted my limited
knowledge on dealing with “your equal”. Some love to view people as equals and
place them high upon that pedestal but do they truly belong there? Equals is a
term that may need to be better defined. As we take a hard look at ourselves in
all our glory and flaws what do you see? Many see what they want, a few see
what they hope to be and even less see that part of ourselves that others love.
So now that we sized our self up and accepted it, what do we do with it? Many
relationships are built on some form of dependence. I can honestly say that I
am grown and don’t need a mother, cook, maid or some spineless rug for me to
walk all over. As I say all too often, that
is not the skill set you are “applying for”.
In all this voyage of life sometimes we meet “ourselves in others” and
then it gets interesting. Finally a true equal who is worth the title but yet we
are at a loss of how to deal with this person. To many times it ends up in disastrous
train wreck but why? For me it goes back to that “hard look at one’s self”, did
you lie to yourself or misrepresent yourself? The great thing about “meeting
yourself” is that they will know. And herein lays the core issue, honesty. You
gotta be honest with you before you can be honest with others. People accept us
for our flaws and love us for our strengths and no one knows that better than
the equal that is before you. Accepting that you are the same and have all the
same thought process is another thing. Now the path of two can become one and
the steering of lives can be shared and celebrated. I don’t need to make all
the decisions and am happy to live with your choices for I am not intimidated
by the reflection of me that I have meet; I am only trying to survive me incarnate!
As we all know, work sux! It is a four letter word and we have to do it; those two make it bad enough. But why do we let our work consume us? I know people who hold jobs at all levels and many of them are consumed by their job. Don’t get me wrong I know job pride and the joy of a job well done; but I never let it consume me. Over the last few years I have noticed that employers no longer care about their employees and their morale. Has out sourcing taken the ultimate toll? Have we become desensitized to our own staff due to other countries eagerness to make the American dollar? Or is it that we just became a project management kind of work force? We all know the kind, well paid short lived and nothing matters but the project. It is simple for me: I am only as good as those that support and help me. Never would I ride the backs of people for my own status. Oh but wait, I am assuming we have leaders instead of managers. I have been fortunate to know leadership and have been called upon t...
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